MFM and FMF: is it worth trying a threesome

I believe that in real life this experiment can exceed all expectations. And not only good.

If you do not know what these mysterious abbreviations mean, then let us explain. FMF is a Threesome: two women, one man. MFM — two men, one woman. It all options a Threesome, which is a dream of many men and Yes, women.

“However, it is not always clear why people choose such radical experiments at once, the consequences of which are difficult to assess.” — After all, you can start small, but more secure — use sex toys, try role-playing games.”

The main thing is not to get involved in this adventure solely because of the fear of losing a partner, because of the desire to please him. “Sex should happen voluntarily, by mutual desire, and most importantly — be fun” — as a sex therapist.

When a threesome turns out to be unsuccessful?

It is interesting that men more dream to appear in a bed with two women, and those in turn — with two men. This situation is quite logical: once in bed is your own floor, include jealousy and rivalry.

“Plus, the fantasy of a Threesome can be a good test of the strength of a man’s feelings. — If he plans to start a family with his partner, chances are he will never want to share it with anyone else.”

Claims, accusations and insults — that’s what can end, it would seem, this fun and promising experiment.

But the main thing is that offering a Threesome to your partner — a person you trust, be ready: you can suddenly find out about him that you do not like.

For example, a woman will say: “And I do not mind to try! I even had such an experience.” Or, “I once had a mistress, so I’m bisexual.”

Or a man might say, “Yeah, baby, a great plan is to share you with another man.” It’s like, “I don’t really care about you or our relationship, I don’t care about you at all.”

It may be that not all people are so tolerant, Mature and able to cope with their feelings, as they thought in theory.

“Sometimes fantasies and conversations are enough to warm up mutual passion,” suggests the sexologist.

How to make a threesome enjoyable?

If you still piquant discussion led you to the decision to “try”, to begin with, make sure you want that for you: out of curiosity, craving for adventure, for thrills. And not for the sake of pleasing a man.

Weigh how well you know yourself, your desires, reactions and can assess the consequences: that you will not be jealous and make claims. Jealous owners of any sex should not get involved in such experiments.

Take responsibility to avoid reproaches and scandals. Remember that by giving your consent, you can change your mind at any time if you feel uncomfortable. And secondly, then there will be meaningless statements like: “You pressed me”, “I did it just for you!”Such sacrifices are absolutely useless.

Finally, planning a Threesome, I offer to discuss with a partner the rules:

  • Have sex on someone else’s territory, not at home, not in your bed.
  • Choosing a partner, do it together: no negotiations with the “third” behind the back of a loved one.
  • Avoid soulful conversations and creating closer emotional contacts — joint dinners, going to the movies, sleeping in the same bed. This is to avoid the passion, love and betrayal.
  • Pay about the same attention to both partners — caresses, words, strokes. This is the prevention of jealousy.

And, most importantly, think: is not a threesome a desperate attempt to somehow save your smoldering intimate life? If you are not very good together, and for a long time, it is unlikely that someone third suddenly magically fixes it.